ePeople have been experiencing disappointment from different angles. Some people’s disappointment came from people they trusted as friends, lovers, family and even colleagues. Disappointment is the feeling that follows failure of expectations or hopes to manifest. A person feeling regret focuses on his or her actions that lead to a poor outcome but a person feeling disappointed focuses on the outcome itself. According to Deb Caleth, ‘it was one of those times you fell a sense of loss, even though you did not have something in the first place. I guess that’s what disappointment is – a sense of loss for something you never had’.

In the entertainment world, disappointment also happens. The fans get angry by the actions of some of our celebrities. We may not be satisfied by the kind of music they release or the type of role they play in a certain movie. Celebs are not super human beings so they are not exempted from being disappointed.

The recent disappointment news that is everywhere is that of Genevieve Nnaji. Genevieve was supposed to get married to one Ugochukwu Udeze, a wealthy NBA basketball agent based in Denver, Colorado.  The groom did not show up on the wedding day. This bride was disappointed, heartbroken and I’m sure embarrassed on a day that was supposed to be one of her happiest day on earth (if not the happiest day of her life).

Genevieve is an award winning actress, a single mother who had a daughter in her teens. She has been single for thirty seven years and a mother for about twenty years. She did not get married because according to her, she does not want to go for the wrong man. And when she decided to settle with someone, she got disappointed.

Of course, he had his reasons and he stated the reasons. According to sources, he thought the actress had something to hide that was why she did not bother to invite her parents for the wedding scheduled to hold in Milan. Furthermore, he stated that his father’s refusal forced him to cancel the wedding. I admit that the man has his own reasons for doing what he did, but why did he wait for the D-day before he did so? Why did he let her go through the shame on the wedding day? I really hope he could answer these questions.

Some people who have experienced disappointment have refused to move on, but others have moved on. Although, it is not a sweet experience and may not be easy to get over it, but it’s best not to give up on life. According to Joel Osteen “you must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically you will have stop rise up and say, I don’t care how hard this is; I don’t care how disappointed I am. I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life”.

Many people see our celebrities as role models; they also have their personal lives to live. Perhaps that is why she (Genevieve Nnaji) did not want an elaborate wedding. Though, I am not happy with what happened to her, I hope she gets over it soon. To me, she is a strong woman. She single handedly raised a child to adulthood and waited this long to settle down. Although, she was disappointed, she should not give up her dream of getting married. She should not let today’s disappointment cast shadows on tomorrow’s dream.

Note that there are few things one can do to get over disappointment. The first is let it out, talk to someone about it. Do not keep it to yourself. The second is to get some perspectives; you have let it out and have given yourself time. You will be able to think it through and get new perspectives from other people. The third is for you to know your heart. Know what you want and how you want it. Don’t rush things for any reason. The last thing is to practice acceptance. Try to accept people back to your life. Disappointment is a part of life although most times it leads to heartbreak, but do not let your heart tear apart and all parts of life help us to grow. Learn to expect nothing from people because they can disappoint at any time. Live more fully and forget the bad experience.

CATALYST

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